Valentine’s Day. It’s one of those holidays that most people either love or hate, and those people are usually divided by being in a happy relationship or being single, respectively. Though Valentine’s Days spent single often left me as one of those bitter Grinches when that time of year rolled around, I eventually decided that it wasn’t worth the negative thoughts and feelings for a day that makes other people genuinely happy and more outwardly expressive of their love for one another. So yes, Valentine’s is intended to spend with your significant other, but if you’re single, why not spend it with your friends (who you love platonically)?
We’ve all done it… Dwelling over past relationship mishaps and mistakes wondering, What the hell was I thinking back then? Instead of beating ourselves up over these, whether they were long- or short-lived, we should instead embrace them for exactly what they were (and are): a learning experience. They’re not something to celebrate, nor to roll your eyes over and take as self-admonition for all future relationships. Just accept it and grow from it. After thinking about this quite a bit lately, I’ve been mulling over five specific things that I’ve learned over the past few years:
We’ve all been there: there’s been someone in each of our lives who has repeatedly given us the cold shoulder, failed to make plans time and time again, avoided our calls, and more or less withheld mutual respect in whatever form that relationship took. A friend, a family member, a (hopefully by now ex-) romantic partner. And the sad thing is, we often take the BS, sometimes without even fully realizing and acknowledging it for what it is.